Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Sleeping Tiger

So gracious, so civilized
Teeth grinding, lips curled
Try so hard, grin so wide
Growling under breath

Crawling close, closer
Shoulders swimming
Up and up, closer
Least expected

Even by you
Stripes crawling
Into palms closed

Look deeper, this time
Past yourself
Sleeping tiger
I know it’s hard

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

She wakes...a poem

She wakes from slumber
Stretching her arms
Over eastern sky
Extending her fingers
Gracefully to feel

She wakes from slumber
Clearing foggy webs
Resting on grassy beds
Opening eyes slowly
Peering through clouds

She wakes from slumber
Hearing gentle music
Nature’s lovely symphony
Ear raised to listen
Life waking to greet

Saturday, December 11, 2010

Tis the season of loss?

During traumatic and stressful times in our lives we may ask God “why me?”. When bad things happen to good people we may feel anger toward God, or disappointment, or neglect. In the past two days I have had different associates come to me and share some shocking news.  One said her husband was diagnosed with a neck tumor, awaiting tests. She can’t stop crying, and he can’t stop hugging their two year old son as if it’s for the last time. The other told me his sister had a miscarriage yesterday. This was the family’s first child, and all were devastated with the news. In addition, my brother’s coworker lost his mom around Thanksgiving. What is going on? Why all of this pain and sadness right before the holidays? 

It is difficult to rationalize God’s will during times of fear and grief.  It can be easy to turn away from God.  However, it is during adversities when our belief in the divine is most needed; when we must have faith that all is as it should be. I lost my mother a week after Christmas when I was 16 years old. Two years ago my best friend passed away on the 16th anniversary of my mother’s death.  I felt I would crumble into a million pieces, what was left of me. However, I would remember that both of them had predicted the time of their passing years before it happened. I decided to have faith, that it was their destiny, their time. I also believe we choose our life (including the time of our birth and death) as souls before we are born. So I also took comfort in the idea that this is what they ultimately chose to experience.  Some people turn their loss into opportunities to help others. John Walsh started “America’s Most Wanted” after his son was abducted and killed and the “Amber Alert” was created by a mother who’s daughter Amber was also abducted and killed, in turn saving thousands of other childrens’ lives.

We all deal with issues differently, and when the health and lives of our loved ones are concerned, it is especially difficult to know how to cope.   But you can turn your situation into an opportunity to practice faith; faith that all is as it should be; faith that God knows best, even if we don’t understand why.

Friday, December 10, 2010

New Year's Resolutions

As the year draws to and end, you make be thinking about what New Year resolutions you would like to make. I usually do not set “resolutions” for I find them to be more like sacrifices or milestones than realistic goals…I will stop smoking, give up meat, start working out, loose 20 pounds, find love, change myself, change my life. These are great, but as with fad diets, setting unrealistic goals to accomplish too quickly only sets us up for failure and disappointment. Make 2011 about self love. Instead of giving up things you love, try moderation and focus on other things you can do to make your life full of more joy. This might mean leaving a stagnant job or relationship, cutting toxic people out of your life that only hold you back, taking more time for your self to meditate and reflect, taking up a new hobby you’ve always wanted to try, or buying a new vacuum because the one you have is driving you mad (ok, personal experience)!

Focusing on your self may sound selfish at first, but by first giving to yourself to create joy, happiness and balance within, can you then bring these energies out into the universe. But on a simpler level, you deserve to be happy.  There will always be things we cannot control in our lives, but your happiness is all you. You choose how you deal with adversity, you chose to stay in a bad situation, and you decide to be negative or a victim. This New Year, take a small step toward self..self understanding, self acceptance, self love.

                                 Happy Holidays and New Year!