Sunday, January 9, 2011
When the love is gone, love yourself
What do you do when the love is gone? Whether for a relationship, a friendship, or even a job or city you live in, how does one walk away from a stale situation which no longer offers anything positive to your growth and development? Or is negative and toxic to your soul? Well, the first (and most difficult) step is REALIZATION. It can be disappointing and painful to realize that you must say goodbye to a person or situation. However, through self-love you will also realize that you must put yourself first in order to live a whole and balanced life. It may feel selfish to put yourself first, especially if you are a “giver”. But in order to truly give the best you have to offer, from a place of true service and love to those you care about, you must give to yourself first. The second step is COURAGE. It’s scary to take action, to walk away and gain independence. Change is scary. Even if the change is positive, it is unfamiliar and the old and familiar will always feel more secure. Having the courage to take action and improve your life is also a reflection of self-love. And finally the last step is ACCEPTANCE. Accept yourself for making the difficult decision and seeing it through. Accept that people change, and that you’ve changed. It’s OK if you outgrew someone or something, and that it is just a part of your development and growth, of your journey.