Friday, May 27, 2011
The healing powers of responsibly expressed anger.
Anger. Blood-boiling, fist clenching, teeth grinding, wall punching, seething, explosive, seeing red anger is often characterized as being negative, something to be suppressed and with out a place in spirituality. Human emotion of anger has been called many things, “sin, shadow self, evil, barbarian, animalistic”, but what it is often not called is healing. Unless you are a truly enlightened being (after years of discipline, prayer and meditation usually performed in isolation and solitude) you will experience anger. Yet most of us are taught at an early age by our parents, teachers and society that expressing anger is unacceptable. So many of us repress it, only to explode when all of the pent up emotions inevitably explode (or implode into psychological disorders). But what we are not taught is that expressing anger in a responsibly way is a healthy release that will cleanse the soul. By suppressing anger inward or creating resentment through unexpressed anger toward the correct source, it will only eat us up inside and deplete our energy and soul. If you are unable to express your anger to a source, then release it in other ways such as vigorous exercise, boxing, or just letting out a gut wrenching scream within a safe and enclosed area like your car, house or nature. Babies instinctively know how to release frustrations by yelling, crying or just screaming. Then it passes and they are all smiles again. My toddler will sometimes clench his fists and just scream at the top of his lungs, like a wolf howling at the moon. If we are at home (not in public, thus being a responsible expression), I just scream with him. He looks at me, laughs, and we continue to scream together. And it feels damned good!