My main challenge was my job. After I had my son I was miserable spending so much time away from him. In addition, I felt it was not my life's work, and a toxic environment all around. This ultimately started to affect my mental and physical health. However, I felt stuck. Maybe because I had a "good job" during a recession, or the fear of starting a new job when I was already so fatigued and burnt out, or maybe because I didn't want to be a quitter. For the entire year I went through this challenge, weighing the pros and cons, going back and forth between heart and mind.
As challenging as this year was, it was an extremely rewarding time in terms of personal growth. I was forced to look inward for answers. I spent a lot of time researching myself with astrology, numerology and self-reflection. I turned to spirituality and God more than ever before. I knew what I wanted, which was to spend more time with my son. But I was afraid of the financial strain quitting my job would put on my family. I wanted to be a Mama Bear, and even wrote poems about it. I started seeing signs of Mama Bears with a cub everywhere I looked. Mid year my husband and I decided for me to leave my job, but I should wait and finish off the year in order to get my annual bonus. My hope was to leave prior to the holidays but decided to tough it out until the end of the year. I felt good that I could balance my own needs with the financial responsibility of my family.
One day in July, while at work, I decided to reach out to HR to find out about the bonus plan. I learned that in order to receive my bonus I would have to be employed with the company through March of the following year. It was too much to handle. I am not sure why since I have gone through more difficult challenges in my life. I believe it was because I had spent so much energy fighting against my heart that I was simply exhausted. To top it off I was being offered a promotion opportunity within the company. I felt so overwhelmed with what I should do. I took a break to write a poem* (and included an image that inspired me of a mama and baby bear)about my feelings and then took a walk. I prayed to God to give me an answer, should I stay or should I go? A few minutes later I headed back to the office as I came across a stuffed Mama Bear with cub* in a store window. It was my sign! It was time to move on. However I was still afraid to take the leap. A couple of months later I couldn't take the stress anymore and took a leave of absence to think things through. During my time off the signs of Mama and cub bear kept coming, such as coming across a bus with their image painted on the side*. During my leave I was also able to take the time to rediscovered my passion for psychology and decided to return to school to obtain a Masters degree. Two weeks ago I finally resigned. This week I have received two amazing employment opportunities to decide between, that are in balance with my passions as well as allowing me the time I want with my family.
When we are faced with challenges, or forks in the road, we have to listen to our heart. We need to make bold moves in order to make the necessary changes in our lives. Fear will always hold us back from progress. But when you take a leap of faith, a leap made using the heart and soul, you will always land on your feet. And when you feel you are lost, just ask for a sign...they will come.
Friday, July 29, 2011
Just a mother's wish...a poem
Stuffed Mama Bear and cub in store window:
...the signs were everywhere!